Joy the Naija Mama

2008-12-03T19:20:00.001-08:00

Some more pics

Having orange for the first time

Reading her book ( upside down :))

2008-12-03T19:02:00.000-08:00

My baby is growing into this little person everyday! She does these little things that amazes me....

The other day she was able to sings(not actual words, but you know that's what she is singing) Barney's "I love you" song to the 3rd verse! She could sing the first 2 verses for like the longest, but on Saturday she did the 3rd verse! you should have seen her daddy and I jumping like she won an award....lol She also like singing "ring around the rosy" and she goes in circle and falls down....lol she is too much... I just love it.

I picked her up today and her daycare lady had her looking like a million dollar! I just love that lady, she braids my child's hair all the time. She knows I need the help. Idara's hair has grown so much.

My Princess is ONE!!

2008-11-24T15:23:00.000-08:00

Well that was 3 months ago! She is growing like weed, and I have another one growing inside me! She took some pics the week before she turned one.

My little helper!

2008-10-26T15:57:00.000-07:00

Idara is always in the kicten helping mommy out! I hope to see this interest till she is 18, i love watching her.

Fallin in love again

2008-10-25T08:16:00.000-07:00

Introduction
The everyday stresses of life can take a real toll on marriage. Careers, children, and finances can cause a couple to lose touch with each other. There comes a time when we have to step back from the responsibilities of life to reconnect with our spouse.
Instructions
Difficulty: Moderately Challenging
How to Fall Back in Love With Your Spouse
Things You'll Need
Honesty
Love
Effort
Goals
Forgiveness
Steps
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Step One
Take an honest look at your own feelings. Of course you love your spouse but are you still "in love"? Things to consider are whether or not you like your spouse, common interests the two of you have outside of the children, goals you want to accomplish together and whether or not you are willing to put in the effort it will require to reconnect with your spouse.
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Step Two
Discuss your marriage with your spouse. Be honest with each other and determine what is good about your marriage and exactly what needs improvement. Write down goals, discuss individual dreams as well as life goals the two of you share.
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Step Three
Let go of the past so you can focus on the future. Holding on to old hurts, placing blame and unfilled expectations only damage a relationship. Discuss these things with your spouse and determine to forgive and forget past issues and put all of your energy into building on today.
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Step Four
Focus on the positive. You have already determined that two of you share common goals of building a loving, supportive home base. Now it's time to turn your attention to individual things that you love about your spouse. Start by remembering what first attracted you to your spouse. Physical attributes? Personal strengths? Openness? Attitude? If you really try you might find that same attraction still exists. Next look for positive changes that your spouse has made that you love even more. A good parent? Hard worker? Dedication? Dependability? The list really is endless.
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Step Five
Learn to communicate with your spouse. This includes saying what you really mean and listening to what is really being said by your spouse. If this is a problem area for the two of you, seek outside help from a counselor.
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Step Six
Initiate intimacy with your spouse. Intimacy is one of the first things that really connect two people together and it is one thing couples let slip away from them over time. Hold hands, kiss, flirt, whisper sweet nothings in the ear, leave love notes where they can be found, call to say I love you, create desire with sexy looks, clothing

Dad and his angel

2008-05-01T08:48:00.000-07:00

We had visitors last weekend, and we took the kids to wandoo city. It's was lots of fun... Idara went on the merry go round..... I thought she would be scared, but she had fun with daddy.....

Daddy thinks she is ready for disney

Idara @ 8 months!

2008-04-28T16:36:00.001-07:00

She is everywhere! I need to baby proof my kitchen, she wanted to be in the cabinet helping mama clean.......

Am still learning.........

2008-04-26T07:51:00.000-07:00

to balance this life as a working mom, it is very interesting.... the truth is I never thought of what motherhood was going to be like. I just always thot I will take it one day at a time.

For me motherhood is confusing from one day to the next. I am always seeking for some type of direction everyday. I wonder how my mother did it with six kids. I remind myself that my mother always had her sisters and brothers always willing to help out with the kids whenever. I have no luxury of that. My situation is so different that I never saw this coming. It seems like I have so much going on at one time and I only have one child....lol am not even ready for a second child. It like running a damn company with no one to help you. One day everything is going great, and then all of a sudden it is soooo overwhelming.

My baby just had her first cold, and I wanted to be the one sick. Her daddy was not around, and I like I was not going to make it on my own. Her temperature was so high I didn't understand it. I prayed to God for an understanding on how to go about this. She started coughing and throwing up everything she ate like 15mins before. I started to crying and called 911.... When they came, my baby was smiling with the fireman. They assured me she was ok and I just needed to get Motrin for her. That helped for a minute.

I now realize my whole life has changed and I have to think about my child first before I can make any decision about anything (yep I just found out...lol)

My sister in law made a comment the other day, saying "I see you try to be a good mother to Idara, continue to try your best to be a good mother" I wanted to ask her what she meant by am trying to be a good mother, but I knew the words that will come out of my mouth will sound insulting. Then again some Nigerians always say something when they really mean something well. I know I don't need anyone to tell me if am doing a great job, I JUST KNOW AM DOING A FABULOUS JOB taking care of my daughter.

Love of my life

2008-01-20T16:14:00.000-08:00

Idara is her name, and she is such a wonderful baby. She loves to smile at everyone, and loves to PLAY with dada.

New to blogging world

2008-01-19T12:35:00.000-08:00

I just want to start! I need to put my ramblings somewhere, and it’s impossible to even use a pen and paper with a 5months old baby…… Well I found everyone blogs these days, so why not moi? Sometimes I might fall off the wagon, but am going to give it a try….. My hubby really hates journaling, he says it’s of no use, but I disagree…… I know it helps to write ones thots down…..

Wow enough of my ramblings, see I told you I need somewhere to put my thots…… I am a new mom to a wonderful beautiful baby girl and a wife to a wonderful man….

I have been home for 5months, and will start my new job on Monday. Am really looking forward to my new job, my prayers were answered. My dream job that I’ve been waiting for 2yrs!

I just put my baby to down for a nap, and am here really thinking what it will be like from now on. Am going to miss my baby, and I don’t know how am going to handle all these. I always wonder if am being selfish? Do one have to give up everything when they become mothers? My mom worked, and I came out really good. I guess the guilt is killing me inside…. I have always wanted this job, and everyone that knows me know what my dream job is….. I have always prayed to God letting him know what my heart desires are and he answered my prayers, but it came after I had my baby. Now am asking myself if this was really from God??? Wow ! I want to stop feeling guilty for wanting to go back to work. I guess my only closure now is my SIL is coming to care for my baby.
Second Issue is my milk supply, I’ve been so lazy that I have not been pumping like I should! Yep it’s all my fault, and now am going crazy trying to figure out how to increase my supply. Am taking some mother’s milk tea and started taking fenugreek…. Hopeful it will help with my supply…. I think am going to pump every 2hrs from now on! Hopefully I can manage that…..

Then to my CPA exams! That I try to work on it every hr each day… Pray for me to pass my first part!
I use too much exclamation have you noticed? Lol

Well am off